**this post “Nurse Abuse” has adult content that may not be suitable for younger audience’s***
So this story is true and this has happened to me more than once in my nursing career. I had a couple that I took care of for around a year. The husband, Mr, Dove, I’ll call him, He first arrived from our county jail. He was in a wheelchair and didn’t walk very well. I’m sure he was in jail for something minor, I didn’t ask because everyone deserves to be treated with respect, just my opinion, and the building was still under lockdown. So the guards that were assigned to him were not allowed in the building.
They had to stay in their cars in the parking lot just in case he escaped out the window.? Which, again my opinion, was impossible because he was unable to walk well. I’m assuming that they finally got that and they released him under the care of the facility doctor. His wife, however, came to us from the hospital and she had Covid. So when she first arrived to the facility they were not allowed in the same room because of quarantine status. After she had gotten better they began to room together. I always thought that he was a little strange, but never paid it no mind. He would just look at me with a weird look on his face when I would enter their room.
One afternoon I’m sitting at my desk, he rolled up, kinda sat there, and looked around. He didn’t see anyone so he started talking. He also was hard of hearing so I decided to get a peace of paper to write down what he couldn’t hear me say. (which I did often for him.).
He said, “You know me and my wife, I believe are leaving and getting an apartment”. I said, “ well that’s nice for you guys. I’m sure your wife will enjoy that.” He said, “yea but I think we need help there. I wanted to know if you wanted the job” I said, “no I enjoy my job here I don’t need another one, Mr. Dove”. He sat up in his chair and look around again.” He said, “ we would pay you of course” kinda whispering. Then I wrote on a peace of paper, “I’m not needing another job.”
He said, “ you know me and my wife no longer having sex.” He sat back up in his chair and looked around. I thought to myself, “ well this conversation turned 360 degrees real quick, didn’t it” I wrote, “I don’t think I need to know that information” but he just kept talking and talking. His idea of what a home nurse was suppose to be was to make sure he was satisfied and to take care of his wife…. (I saved all the nasty details that he was trying to express to me out of this post).
I put my hand up in his face and said, “stop”. As he sat there with a smirk on his face. He looked as though I would actually say yes to a bizarre sexual idea that he had in his head. I wrote big as day to make sure he could read it, “Sir first whatever your fucking dreaming would never fucking happen.” Then at the bottom of the page I wrote, “I’m a fucking Lesbian” This was probably one of my top five moments as a nurse. I had a huge smile on my face and handed him the sheet of paper. He had a huge smile on his face when he took it. Then he read it. I had never seen a man’s smile turn to disappointment and then confusion so fast.
I then stood up with a look on my face that he knew he messed up and just walked away. He never spoke of such things with me again. I walked away with a huge smile on my face though. The abuse some nurses have to listen to just because we are women.
All names have been changed for the safety and rights of the patients involved.